Exploring Truths About Hiding Extended Breast-Feeding From Public Scrutiny

5 Posted by - July 25, 2015 - Breast Feeding
A Beautiful Body Project | Jade Beall

Photo by Jade Beall

Self-portrait taken today with my son. There are many ways breastfeeding begs to be normalized. For me right now, it’s normalizing full-term/child led weaning/extended breastfeeding with my 3.5 year old. I admit that I never breastfeed my son in public anymore. I feel like somehow I would be committing a criminal act when all I am doing is providing comfort and nourishment for my son. I see that with my discomfort in breastfeeding my son in public these days that there is a whole new way for me to promote and support feminism.

I still have milk, he still wants his “nah nahs” as he calls it and nothing, absolutely nothing soothes him better… I have tried to wean him multiple times and I have at last surrendered to the flow of my relationship with my son.

If this offends you, ask a me a question rather than call me names. Let’s learn from one another. Let’s be fee from fear of our differences and let’s be filled with curiosity and compassion!

*My son eats mostly normal food. Breastfeeding is more a supplement at this point and hugely comforting for him.

*My mother breastfed me until I was 5 and I would have been proud of her to share her rad commitment to me had there been social media back in the 80’s, and I grew up to be a pretty amazing woman and feminist that LOVES my parent.

Jade Beall is co-founder of A Beautiful Body Project. To book a private photoshoot with her in her Tucson studio or to bring her to your location for a group event, email jade [@] abeautifulbodyproject.com

 

3 Comments

  • Janie LaFleur July 30, 2015 - 8:03 am Reply

    I have been concerned my self if i should continue breast feeding after the age of 1… I was also concerned because of legal reasons am i being a criminal by providing my child with my milk. I now know other mother love there children as much as i do and want to do anything to comfort them. I want to thank you for sharing and now feel comfortable to continue to breast feed until she’s ready to stop or around 5. I also feel that the older they are the harder it is to explain to the public why they are still breast feeding, so at home would be the right place and time.

  • Mima August 3, 2015 - 9:52 am Reply

    thank you jade, lovely photo. I love the way he looks at you. Reminds me of how my daughter looks at me and that reminds me of what a powerful connection it is, way beyond the miracle of the material nutrition it provides. That in itself feels like confirmation of its ‘validity’….

  • Pickle August 24, 2015 - 2:32 pm Reply

    Thank you so much for this! I am still feeding my 2.5 year d and feel that it is right for us to carry on. She gets so much comfort from it and it is a great way for me to reconnect with her after a long day at work. I have started to actively hide the fact that I am still breastfeeding from a lot of the people in my life as I know that they were uncomfortable with it and found it weird. I wish I could just be proud that I am doing the best for my child but I feel frightened of people’s judgement so for now at least it will remain a private thing that only happens in front of a limited few trusted people

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